Getting through a divorce can be stressful for a lot of people. Even if you are an educated professional, the world of divorce can be difficult to navigate because of its complexities and technicalities. The reality of the divorce process can be hard to accept if you are not prepared for the basic concepts when first starting out. To successfully navigate the difficult world of the divorce process here in Florida, keep these three important things in mind.
1. There will be paperwork, and lots of it.
A part of the divorce process (and any other legal proceeding, for that matter) is a lot of paperwork. Courts require a piece of paper for just about everything, and some things that seem simple actually need multiple pieces of paper to formalize. You should be prepared for the fact that there will be a lot of paperwork to do. Also, know that not all forms and documents are crucially important to the outcome of the case. Some documents, like petitions and motions, will be the most important ones in your case and will guide the entire course of your case. Others, like administrative contact forms and orders for court dates, will seem to take up a lot of space but not necessarily mean very much. Be ready for a lot of paperwork, but don’t let it intimidate you.
2. It will be slow.
If you could sum up the divorce process in one line, it would be “hurry up and wait.” When something needs to happen in court then it generally needs to happen quickly. This is particularly true with things like deciding on settlement offers and providing information in child custody cases. Once you do the immediate task, though, you will probably have to wait a while to see what the next task will be. During the time in the middle, you may have little or nothing to do until the next task pops up. Be prepared for the fact that the divorce process takes time and will feel like it is moving along very slowly.
3. It will be hard.
Lots of people start divorce cases thinking that it should be pretty straightforward. They go in expecting certain things because they understand exactly why those things should come into fruition. If you think you know exactly how your divorce case will turn out then you may be in for a surprise. It is rare for both parties to agree on all the terms of the divorce. At the end, even if you do end up getting everything you want, you are still dealing with the fact that a marriage is over and life as you know it has changed. Don’t discount the emotional weight of this change. Instead, be ready for the fact that this will be hard, and that’s okay.